Darrell Wolfe (DG Wolfe) | Storyteller | Writer | Thinker | Consultant

Why?



Why do I have to get up today? Why keep doing things, waking up, going to work, eating... just to pay bills, just so I can keep waking up, working, eating... round and round.

It's monotonous.

I'm in communication with my advisors right now on this question.

Forbes has an interesting, if superficial, article on Finding your why.

Up to now, from early childhood to today, my current relationship was my why. Whoever I'm loving and they're loving me, is why. But as a Widower with no real prospects of Chapter Two on the Horizon, that why is no longer available. My kids feel like they "should" be my why, but they're moving toward independence as teens/preteens. In a few years, they'll be off and running into their lives and I'll be here at the house alone.

What is my WHY?

I don't know. Honestly. At the emotional/gut level. I have intellectual answers but no satisfying why.

My post yesterday addresses this in part; however, although I know I can …

Fatalism is not the answer!

I've had no less than four or five conversations around this general topic recently, so I decided to say something about it. Although I have several friends I want to say this to, the primary audience for this speech today is me. I spent all of yesterday in a fatalistic funk. Today, I'm choosing to make a new choice.

You are not living the life you live because of fate. Period. 

God. The Stars. Fate. They did not create the hardships you face today. There were some factors outside of you that contributed, often in major ways. But you ultimately choose how you will respond from today forward, not Fate.
Fatalism: a doctrine that events are fixed in advance so that human beings are powerless to change them. Websters Fatalism is exactly the opposite of Truth. God empowers you, he does not disempower you. If you believe you are the way you are, living the life you live, because of Fate, you are believing a LIE of Satan. That lie is keeping you bound inste…

For the kingdom of God does not consist of food and drink, but righteousness, peace, and joy in the Holy Spirit. Romans 14:17 NET Bible

Lexicon at Bible Hub:
but righteousnessδικαιοσύνη
(dikaiosunē)1343:righteousness, justicefrom dikaiosand peaceεἰρήνη
(eirēnē)1515:of uncertain derivation, perhaps from eiró (to join): lit. or fig. peace, by impl. welfareand joyχαρὰ
(chara)5479:joy, delightfrom chairó

Righteousness: I AM, right now, regardless of failings or faults, the RIGHTEOUSNESS of Jesus in the eyes of God. I stand before my Father in right standing not because of a single thing I've done except that I accepted his Son standing in my place. When he sees me, he sees his son, in whom he is well pleased.

Peace: Eirene/Shalom: Nothing Missing. Nothing Broken. Everything Whole and Complete. This is the wellness of spirit, soul, body, mind, finances. It's an all-encompassing peace. I need not have it functioning to understand it belongs to me. I have tools I don't use in my toolbox…

Note: *This is to be read with a certain self-sarcasm, a facetious tongue-in-cheek haughtiness.*
Now receive the one who is weak in the faith, and do not have disputes over differing opinions. NET Bible Romans 14:1
I got an attitude check last night. 
Often I'm so sure I'm right about some point (and I usually am) that I make blanket statements other's either misunderstand or vehemently disagree with.

Among other issues, they couldn't possibly come to the same conclusion I had about this issue unless they had first come with me on the journey for all the other revelations leading up to it.

Also, there may be more loving less dogmatic ways of communicating this new insight without alienating well-meaning (if wrong) people.

Furthermore, I can communicate an accurate statement in a wrong attitude and by extension be wrong myself. For attitude, not facts, is the bigger and more important sign of spiritual and emotional maturity.

In addition, it's possible (however unli…