It is not about what is ALLOWED... It's about what is RIGHT.
Hard hearts are the reason for divorce. The one seeking the divorce may not be the one with the hard heart either. But hard hearts are ALWAYS the culprit. But this is not just true of divorce but anything that robs us in life. Every act of a human that violates another human is a matter of a hard heart.
This is compared to the tender heart of a child. Have you ever seen a small child hold a grudge? Most kids, unless badly abused, are quick to forgive AND forget. This is the way we'll have to be to function in the Kingdom of God.
There is no forgiving without forgetting... it's all one. If you choose to bring it up, remember it, and ponder it... you are failing to act out forgiveness. When it tries to come up, remind yourself that you've forgiven them and out loud rebuke that thought from having any place in you.
Does stuff have you or do you have stuff?
There is nothing wrong with stuff... in …